You still have photos with your ex? Here’s why you have to delete them right away
In today’s digital age, every moment of love can be recorded on our cellphone – from spontaneous selfies to travel photos. But when the relationship is over, what to do with these virtual memories? Keep them or delete them? This issue is becoming more frequent, especially when a new romance begins in life.
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The topic became current again after a viral video on the Tictok from the @Meangirlpod profile showed the so -called « 90/10 principle ». According to this advice, you need to delete 90 percent of the photos with your former partner and keep only 10 percent. While some supported this idea, others stood firmly in defense of the « nothing wipes », claiming it was a loss of energy.
However, what seems like a harmless dilemma about old photos can become a serious threat to a new relationship, claims Kate Mansfield, a relationship and relationship expert. As part of a research on digital « cleaning » conducted by the Compare and Recycle portal, Kate warned that this topic could reveal deeper insecurity and wounds in relationships.
– Although there is no universal rule when you need to press ‘delete’, it all depends on the context, – says Kate. One forgotten photo is deeply buried in the gallery is not the same as the whole album of shared pictures you regularly review.
British survey conducted on more than 2000 people showed that more than half of the respondents (52 percent) would not be happy if their partner would retain photos of former love. Only a quarter stated that they didn’t mind. However, only 24 percent of the participants actually deleted such photographs, while one of the ten Britons admitted to keeping them, although he is aware that it could bother the current partner.
According to Kate, the real question is not just if there is a picture, but also how it is discussed.
– The problem is not in photos, but in the way in which uncertainty and boundaries are communicated. Bad communication can make a big problem with a little thing. If one feels ashamed or ignored, it is easy to make a resentment. But with mutual understanding, such situations can usually be easily resolved – he emphasizes.
For all those who still keep memories from past relationships, Kate recommends that they ask themselves three key questions:
- What emotions do these scenes cause – happiness, sadness or indifference?
- Would you have to explain them to find them by accident?
- Do you keep them out of nostalgia or have you just forgot to delete them?
In a world where our cell phones have become personal diaries, privacy limits and past are often overlapping with expectations in the present. And the answer to the question of what to do with digital memories may be in a sincere conversation – before in the photos with photos.
