« You are always so boring around your mom »

« Often these are very powerful women who have a lot of control in their work and then they might walk into their home in the fine villa and there they have no power, » explains Linda Dröfn Gunnarsdóttir, the women’s executive director, in the day.

The collection of all products of the fundraising campaign is under discussion in the episode where the focus is on the construction of a new women’s refuge. Along with Linda Dröfn, two of the three representatives of the campaign were in the episode, Guðný Pálsdóttir and Elísabet Sveinsdóttir, and mentioned how the idea for the issue this year came to light.

Violence regardless of class and position

Taking into account the victims who have applied to the Women’s Refuge, no common denominator has been found on the prevalence of violence based on which class or position of victims belong to such. Rather, violence in close relationships is a major social injury that thrives within all social groups, regardless of class or position, according to Linda Drafnar. However, she points out that marginalized women are often preferred for the beaten, but not because of poor circumstances.

« There is no group that we see standing out. But we naturally see that some women are in a particularly sensitive position, women who do not own their own homes, women of foreign origin and disabled women who are facilitated to use violence.

« On the other hand, there is a red thread in the violence. »

You need no one but me

« The red thread is to gain power and control over the other person with all possible means. The first step is by far the most isolated isolation, isolating the victim from his network: » You are always so boring when you are around your mom and your girlfriends are very strange, « 

« This can be really subtle and a lot of love bombing » as it is called. The perpetrator takes a little over and fills in all areas and always exists, I am the new first person in your life and you need no one but me, ”explains Linda symptoms of spiritual violence even further.

She says the governance of the basic violence in close relationships, but at the same time, perpetrators often experience themselves as victims. Therefore, it can be difficult to bring violent people to understand the abuse they use so that they take responsibility for their own behavior.

« You are going to doubt yourself at all times and believe that this is you to blame – you are just the problem. »

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