TV review Tips for people who hope to find love while swiping – also useful when zapping

Bad news for the swiping fellow man: dating apps do not have the best for you. It is doubtful whether you can really call that ‘news’, because all the necessary has been said about the earnings model of apps such as Tinder and Happn. Yet it was pleasant that Radar (AVROTROS) spent an item on it on Monday, if only to hear Antoinette Hertsenberg say the words « From Grindr to Tinder, from Bumble to Lexa ». She also explained the basic principles of DatingApps, « for those who have no experience with it. » I have always found that a jealous part of the population. People who have never seen Nutella of your body appear on their mobile in the heyday of Tinder opening sentences like « I would like to eat Nutella ». Praise yourself happily.

Anyway: had the less happy part of the population Radar asked to complete a survey about their experiences with dating apps. The more than 3,600 participants chose two feelings that broke away with them. 43 percent felt hopeful and 10 percent happy; In between there was a lot of negativity. 30 percent felt disappointed, 14 insecure and 12 frustrated. Understandable: it is also unpleasant to see an endless procession passing by you that the ice breaker « swipe me to the right, if … » all supplement with « JeBlieft ». That makes a person gloomy.

Yet it is difficult to give up such an app: the algorithm is aimed at keeping you swiping. Clinical psychologist Elisabeth Timmermans gladly compared it with a game and threw half a pack on the floor for the form. First a part to the right: « I like, I like …. » Then to the left: « I don’t like, I don’t like … But of course you get the idea: there are a lot of cards. So it creates the illusion that we can swipe infinitely long. »

Try not to do that anyway, said associate professor of Social Psychology Tila Pronk. According to Pronk, datingApp users assess an average of 140 profiles per session. About ten is better, and you have to look at it very quietly. And she had another tip for people who hope to find love swiping: « We see that people are looking very quickly for refunds. Try to reflect on the things that appeal to you about a photo or profile. »

Fighters

Now I have to admit that I do not always apply this sympathetic method when I put on (which nevertheless comes down to swiping with a remote control). After two or three big Aknappers in a program, the next channel is never far away. But now I decided, à la Pronk, to continue to search for aspects that did appeal to me. To make it extra challenging, I chose the first episode of Fighters (AVROTROS), a spin-off of Kamp van Koningsbrugge. About the latter program, in which participants « undergo the heavy special forces training », I will say nothing unkind because I have already written that it worked on my nerves in such a way that I wanted to throw potatoes at my TV.

Over Fightersin which the candidates participate in « an ultimate military championship », I will say nothing unkind, because I would not focus on turns. I therefore remain silent about the pumping music, from Koningsbrugges unacceptable metamorphosis of The lamas-Man to Machoman and the stifling smoke of military propaganda. I had an eye for what I really liked: a man who showed up on slippers for his military training. Unfortunately he was not allowed to go to the next round. Maybe that says enough.

*What bothers me the most: in this scenario only one person eats Nutella, and I am clearly not. Totally selfish proposal. Do better.

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