Tuija Eerola and Neea Paatero found the men of their lives as they gave up length criteria
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Tuija Eerola and Neea Paatero say they have found men in their lives after giving up the length criteria in finding a partner.
Today, Eerola is dating a 165 cm man, although in the past she was looking for a longer partner.
Paatero met Toni Kettunen, 10 cents shorter and fell in love with his warm and intelligent personality.
When Tuija Eerola60, was even younger, he was self -evident to find a long man. After all, he himself is long, exactly 182 centimeters.
« When I put a dating announcement in the magazine, the length limit always came. »
The goal of the past years returned to his mind when HS told me On Friday, the club search application for Tinder is becoming a feature that can be used to screen for partner candidates based on length.
Techcrunch news site Estimates that the feature is especially for women who are looking for a long man like Eerola at a young age.
Researcher Anne Holappa told HS’s story that we have a thought that a man should be longer than the woman. The idea is fed to us through education, media and relationships. According to Holapa, it can also be difficult for long women to find a partner.
According to Eerola, his wish for a long man was also much related to how he was treated as a long young woman.
« People joked and updated how long you were. When you heard it for a hundred times, it felt miserable. I felt like an eye and a wrong woman. »
In his twenties, Eerola was dating himself with a few centimeters shorter. Unlike Eerola, the man did not bother the man in length.
« I always found it a little embarrassing and difficult. »
Evolutionary psychologist Markus J. Rantala He said in an interview with HS that long men are interested in women because they may feel that they provide better security for the woman and her children.
Eerola does not recognize this explanation. According to him, it was more about his own insecurity. Rather, Eerola felt that she couldn’t feel feminine with a shorter man.
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« The length no longer means anything when we otherwise agreed so well. »
« I wasn’t looking for a long man because of any mystical security. I am a big one already. I felt that I was an abnormal giant. »
As self -confidence has gained, Eerola has become you with her length. He has also noticed that other things are more important than length in a relationship.
Today, Eerola is dating a 165 cm man.
« He’s a man of my life. The length no longer means anything when we otherwise agreed so well. »
Eerola likes the fact that a man praises his appearance as he looks like a man’s appearance.
« If he said don’t wear tall shoes when you’re terribly long, it would still hurt. »
Also Neea Paatero42, thought to be almost forty that the partner had to be longer than him. As he searched for a company on Facebook’s dating app, he longed off the shorter candidates for less than 172 centimeters.
The picture does not reveal Neea Paatero and his spouse Toni Kettunen’s length difference, but it doesn’t matter.
The Paatero began to feel that the length was superficial as a criterion. What did it matter in the end? When Paatero then decided to start dating more open -minded, he met himself 10 cents shorter Toni Kettunen – And I fell in love.
« He was a warm and promising Savolainen. Very intelligent and funny, but also laughed at my stuff. I felt he was genuinely interested in me as a person, » Paatero says.
The couple, who has been together for a year and a half, live under one roof.
« You can say that she’s the love of my life. We are serious, and this feels like a relationship for the rest of your life. »
For Anu Korhonen43, however, quite the opposite. He thought for a long time that the man’s length didn’t matter, but since then he has come to the conclusion that it has it.
« Longer men have better self -esteem, » Korhonen believes.
Korhonen himself is quite medium, or 165 cents. As a diligent dating, he says he has met men of all lengths. The shortest dating partner has been 158 cents, the longest 195 cents.
« Shorter men have a greater need to apply either by car, position, money or intelligent. Besserwisser, » Korhonen says.
« This is, of course, entirely my own mud. What does it finally know what the reason is, but I think long men are more with you. »
Korhonen is pleased with the length of his current partner: 180 cents.
« I have to admit that I also attract big and muscular men. »
Neea Paatero is saddened by the idea that women and men can walk past their happiness if they set too tight criteria for their ideal partner.
« I might have internalized the idea that a man had to be longer than me so I could feel small and pretty. »
However, Paatero believes that with the aging, he had to consider self -confidence which things in the partner were really meaningful.
« A shorter partner is also a good reason not to use uncomfortable high heels, » he laughs.
Then he adds: if he wanted to use them, his partner’s self -esteem would last.
