The « secret life » of the Mormon wives, between swingers and iron rules. The Utah’s Momtok scandal (and the hypothesis of the scam)
A TV series explores the #momtok phenomenon and the « soft swinging » scandal in the Utah Mormoni community. But what’s right?
Nine Utah women, all under thirty years. Respecting the murmur tradition they got married between late adolescence and 20 years, they already have some dependent children and others coming. They are the protagonists of the « Soft Swinging » scandal, the swingers practiced by the Mormons: a case that raged for weeks in the United States, and which was told in the TV series « The secret life of Mormon wives » (now on Disney+ with the second season).
The rules of « soft swinging »
Chaos, and fame, begin when Taylor Frankie Paul (5 million followers on Tiktok, of which two million obtained after the scandal) announces the intention to divorce live social. According to his story, he fell in love with another man after practicing « Soft Swinging ».
With this term Taylor refers to a particular form of opening of the relationship that provides an exchange with other married couples of the same community, specifying that it is a « tradition » of his group of friends of Utah Mormoni.
However, there are precise rules, such as the fact that intimacy should not end with penetrationunless the respective spouses are present in the room: «Obviously no one has been forced. We did it every now and then. We organized parties and At the end of the evening everyone went to do all this… it happened several times, « said Taylor.
In a direct social of May 25, 2023 he told of these meetings, of their rules and how it was she who violated the agreement, having a complete relationship with one of the husbands. It is probably the same man with whom he got engaged to after divorce, and from whom he had a son a year ago, But I don’t know confirmation.
After the accusations raised by Paul all the other girls of the group #Momtok – We will see in short that it is – have denied all involvement. Taylor had said that « The majority » of the members of the group had not participated in the exchanges, suggesting that some had participated, without ever saying the names.
For the members of the Church of Jesus Christ of the Saints of the last few days (the Mormons, editor’s note) Marriage is a sacred alliance which should last forever. Therefore, neither divorce nor any other type of form of intimacy are conceived that is carried out outside the wedding.
The streaming scandal
The scandal is told in the first season of « The secret life of the Mormon wives », Docu-Reality that explores the phenomenon of #Momtok. The cameras enter the life of this group of young women, originally from Utah e followers of murmurismfamous as influencer that create content united by the use of the hashtag #momtok. A channel that has become even more famous after scandal.
It should be considered that the series is more reality that documentary. It is therefore not necessary to expect to understand how a family of Mormoni works, but rather of seeing how these influencers occupy time UTAH: In addition to Taylor Frankie Paul there are Demi Engemann, Jen Affleck, Jessi Nattokaura, Layla Taylor, Mayci Neety, Mikayla Matthews, Whitney Leavitt and Miranda McWHORTER.
Scam or reality?
But if it was all a deception? The American magazine Vulture He titled a recent article on the series in this way: «All in The secret life of Mormon wives They know that #momtok is a lie ». The analysis is simple: If it were not for the good of the hashtag, These women probably wouldn’t even go out together. Yet, he continues Vulturethe #momtok in itself is nothing, only a hashtag.
But above all Neither the social networks nor the series tell what it really means to be a murmured wife. Do not respond to all the curiosities raised by other profiles, such as that of Hannah Neeleman, known as Farm dancer from his 9 and passes millions of followers.
Of Neeleman returned to talk to the end of July, after an article of the Sunday Times He told a day in his company. Former professional dancer and joliard student, he grew up – like the protagonists of the series – In a Utah farm, ninth daughter of a pair of Mormoni. She married the heir of the billionaire David Neeleman, also Mormone, from whom he had eight children and a life that – as he lets himself be understood by some clarification of the journalist – deprived her of his independence as a woman.
The commentators divided: on the one hand Who criticizes Neeleman’s exampleclaiming that he does nothing but promote an attitude of submission of women to the husband; on the other who instead praises the choices of the « traditional wives », who choose independently what to do with their lives.
Sex toys and hilarious gas
To hear the influencer protagonists of the series, at the base of the #momtok there is the will to team up, to join to find a sort of independence (in the first season one of them claims his right to advertise sex toys To underline the importance of greater education and sexual freedom between Mormon women). But according to others it is only a strategy for attract other women within the community.
«#Momtok is real only to the extent that the murmurs wives they pretend that it is – continues Vulture -. For them, #momtok is Mormon yet, paradoxically, it is based on feminist emancipation. (…) Talking about feminism, genre or religion roles is immediately compelling. But #momtok connects everything to a fundamental and delicious superficiality».
To try it there would be a fact: when the series tries to touch more interesting aspects, from sexual independence to the couple relationship, Everything is obscured by quarrels, tears and fake parties organized only to exploit spectacular locations.
Those who look at the series to discover something more on the « secret life of the Mormon wives » will be disappointed: it will only discover that their religion prohibits alcohol consumption, But that on the other hand they all participate together with the Botox sessions to get rushed with the hilarious gas.