Should children be told? – release
In Monaco, think the truth
Fake news, family secrets, lies … Until Sunday, Monaco’s philosophical meetings devote their philosophy week to the notion of truth. Can we hatch on the couch? Should it be sent to the devil? How to teach our children? The philosopher Claire Marin, the political scientist Asma Mhalla, the writer Vanessa Springora, the psychoanalyst Stéphane Habib or the essayist David Djaiz, will be present, among others. Program on Philomonaco.com
If we believe the pediatrician and the psychoanalyst Françoise Dolto (1908-1988), we must talk to children true, all the time: « Everything is to be put into words. » The reason she invokes for « Say everything » is that the difficulty for the child does not reside only in the event itself, but in the way in which he was able to live it, in the way he could or not to put him in words, in the words which we have been able to surround or even cover what he experienced.
What Dolto sought to make parents understand in the years 1970-1980, in his books and his radio interventions is that we had to revise our relationship to the child: it is not so much to speak of the child to speak has the child, not so much to observe him as to speak with him. The child is a subject to come from before his birth – in the first name we choose him, in the thoughts and reveries of his future parents.
Talking to the child, even infants, is to recognize his place for him is to humanize him, said Dolto. This is what she was doing with her young patients, that’s what we have done with children since her. We speak to babies when we are in their presence, when n
