Sexism? No dude! Haha! It must remain cozy

All my life I collect sexist comments. Or well, not that it is my goal, or a hobby or something, but I have experienced it so often that I have almost had fun nowadays. Comments such as: ‘If you still want children, I would not apply for this position’. « You have humor, you know how rare a woman with humor is? » or ‘you are cool, really One of the Boys. ‘

Or that one reader! He thought that Japke is a men’s name, and was disappointed when I turned out to be a woman, because I « wrote such nice pieces. » The man who was surprised that I had studied economics because that is ‘quite a difficult study’. The manager who, three women in a team, came to tell us that an extra coordinator, a man, would be appointed above us, because he wanted « a balanced person », « an anchor. » Every time it is something new.

Recently I also had a nice one again! Then, after I had given a language lecture about jargon – the entire room was flat with laughter – a man was to me to say that he had found my lecture very stupid.

You know the type, such a person who thinks it is necessary to drop that he once sat on a board. Then he bent over to me, so that the bystanders couldn’t hear it, and he whispered in my ear: « I thought it was a little ladies humor. »

Ladies humor! Whaaaaa! I didn’t know it yet. What would that be? Humor of his wife? Jokes from his mother, from his daughter? From Brigitte Kaandorp? Or a joke in which someone puts his meat rod in a mouse trap, and eaten by women?

And what is ‘Herenhumor’ then? Something that Gijp might laugh about. A candle that goes into a woman, and is finally being lit? At least something about boat refugees, or about sex, right? That you had such a man again last night who was lost and thought they were doing well by stimulating your navel. Or is that again ladies humor? But of course I didn’t say that.

Honestly: you would like to sell such a man a few pumps on his canis. Or say that if someone has kicked his dick, he might have to go to the urologist, instead of pissing against you. But we women don’t, haha ​​really not! The last thing you want is that you are found a sour bitch that is not against criticism, or even worse: that cannot stand ‘a joke’.

And yet I think more and more often lately: maybe we women should go back to all that everyday sexism. Or maybe I have to take on that task myself, on behalf of all women in the world, ha! Wait, then I put on my superman suit.

My men’s friends always say: nicely ignore. « These kinds of men are simply uncertain, and die out of it. It is only one glans, you stand above. » But is that so?

Because we have been ignored for so long. And it doesn’t stop. In fact, with the arrival of Donald, Elon, Andrew and all those men who find women ‘sperm buckets’, more and more acorns seem to be added.

Ignoring rarely helps anyway. For example, we have ignored Snollebollekes for years, and now look. Or the ‘Live, Love, Laugh’ signs, Gerard Joling and AI, and that is now also finding everywhere. And so I ask you, dear readers: what to do? Does I have to do something?

Maybe we should start rosing bus shelters on Women’s Day. Maybe we should say things like: « I don’t accept this, this is denigrating. » Perhaps we should include the penis enforcement in the basic package of the health insurance funds.

Maybe we should explain it to the sexists. That it might be very threatening for some men, but that nowadays women can also laugh, do things, have important jobs, and are annoying.

Maybe we should mobilize men to stand up for us. A bit like you used to get your brother, or your father, when the boys pulled your hair.

Or maybe we should, and a friend of mine came with that, from today make it compulsory for all sexist man’s plainers!

So that before they start their comments, they first have to say something like: « Hey, I’m going to say something like that really has nothing to do with you, but everything with my view of women – do I have your permission for that? » And that we can choose if women, if we want to take the ‘feedback’ as a gift.

Well, curious what you think! I am curious about your experiences with this kind of sexism anyway. Errug! Or wait, I have to say, « Cozy! »

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