Mom is the concern of all of us

Unexpected pregnancy

A beauty specialist, Laura, who is raising two punch daughters, today, in the eyes of the majority, is an almost exemplary mother. After work, she rushes home, prepares dinner, and engages in her little ones. On Saturdays, if there are no pre -planned clients’ visits, it allows the family. Sundays are also for the family.

« We go to the forest because we live near it, play board games. Of course, life is not just entertainment – we do our housework, we also put our daughters in the process. True, this was not always the case. The first daughter, as the woman said, was planned and very much awaited, and here’s the news that a second life was for a year after a year after heart – it was quite unexpected.

« Pregnancy was not so gratifying. Maybe because he is the second, maybe because I was not planned and expected. I knew a lot, I didn’t feel that euphoria like a senior – the first time Laura lauts to her second daughter, the stone turned away from the heart. »

Noble: A. Petraitienė is pleased that from 2019 The « Mom We care » project did a lot of good for the births. Photo by R. Rimkutė-Augutė

Grateful to loved ones

When he returned home, about a couple of weeks later, Laura was again doubtful. She began to look at her newborn baby without love, even with a kind of accusation. When the baby was crying, the woman was in no hurry to calm her down. The daughter’s daughter was in the chest, and the sweet smell of skin, from which other moms hit her legs, just nausea.

« There was some apathy. I didn’t want to meet with my family or my friends, even though they were feeling like something was going on with me. Laura does not know what the outcome of her story would have been, if not for the husband and the parents of the two. When they took their shoulders, they helped as they could – came home, prepared food, helped me, occupy the elder, and took care of the family.

I am most grateful to my mom, who helped not only with girls and household. As she knew she tried to improve my psychological condition.

« I am most grateful to my mom, who helped not only with girls and domestic. As she knows she tried to improve my psychological condition. Called a manicure, pedicure, massage, to go to the cinema. He visited the consultation, drank medication, and then stopped them because the feeling of apathy from the antidepressants remained the same. About half a year later, when the hormones were arranged, the old Laura returned.

« I just felt like one day everything shone. The joy of life came back, » about five years later, the woman could talk calmly about the postgraduate depression overcome and hoped that her story would help other maternity.

Facts every fifth

Numbers show that postpartum depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder and, very rarely, even psychosis, is affected by one seventh maternity. One of four women experiences significant symptoms.

« In Lithuania, a study on women’s postpartum is very similar and all that time has been very similar. About 24 % of women have been subjected to postpartum depression or other significant symptoms of this disease. Asta Petraitienė, a photographer of newborns project « Mom We Care », is convinced that taking care of women’s emotional state and mental health during pregnancy, childbirth and period after childbirth is a particularly important part of health care. The state of the mother affects not only her own quality of life, but also the child, the whole family.

Hormonal changes in the body are under birth, so about 80-90 percent. Women face maternity melancholy. It usually takes about two weeks and is not a postpartum depression with a very wide range of signs, but is characterized by different frequency and intensity in different women.

« It is important to grasp the changes as early as possible. Fear, anxiety, constantly depressed mood, crying, irritability, anger or child’s father for no apparent reason, suicidal thoughts are just a few signs of postpartum depression. » https://www.mamamumumsrupi.lt; The scale is best used during pregnancy and within the first 6-8 weeks after giving birth. It should be mentioned that not every woman can recognize postpartum depression, so the role of relatives is very important.

« They have to watch the maternity feel or get rest. Elementary sleep deprivation can be very tired. In addition, as much household work as possible should be taken over so that the woman does not feel guilty, » Petraitiene emphasized that postpartum depression becomes not only a woman but a family. « 

Interest: Last year, the maternity actively celebrated World Moms Mental Day – attended hiking and lectures. Photo by R. Rimkutė-Augutė

Feeling change

In recent years, young moms have been growing in the country, changing change. The replica of the older generation, which is all depressed, is increasingly frequently heard, the consequence of a good life. A. Petraitienė disagrees with this statement. The postpartum depression and other mental health problems have been experienced at all times, just not talking about it, solving quietly in their own home.

« There is a change of times. In the past it was normal to raise children with a belt because the public was focused on physical things – it is important how we look, not how we feel. There was little information and some women have accepted the emotions of motherhood – it has to be suffered, » the interviewer rejoiced at the changing public understanding of what is normal and what is not.

This, according to her, gives hope that the changing attitude towards mental health, prevention is just beginning.

« Since July last year, every public medical institution, a family visiting a family doctor, receives questions about her well -being with her baby to one year. If necessary, she has been referred to mental health professionals. Here is a very big step, because earlier attention was only the baby, » Petraitiene was pleased that The social project « Mom is concerned », which is consistently seeking to raise public awareness of the mental health of moms and to encourage them to seek help.

The organizers of the social project, along with volunteers in various cities of Lithuania, come together to help moms, anxiety, loneliness, so as not to fall into the postpartum depression. The social project « Mama is concerned » is consistently educated by parenting mental health, organizes qualification courses with moms working with moms, and collaborates with mental health professionals who contribute to the reduction of post -post postpartum depression.

Relatives are also invited

For the third year, the social project « Mama is concerned », for the third year in May, is World Mother Mental Day. Last year it united as many as 26 Lithuanian cities, about 3 thousand. people. Such interest is expected this year as well. The events are conducted by volunteers who have joined the social project, whose aim is not only to pay attention to the emotional well -being of moms, but also to remind you that in terms of self -care, the mother creates a healthier environment for her child.

« We encourage women to join communities, be with other moms. Once you see that not one of your child is crying, that you are not asleep, feelings normalize, communion, and support. – It is great that they also got involved in today’s events. Last year we received quite a few parents and grandmothers. ”

You will find cities that will celebrate World Mom’s Mental Day on Facebook, Mom Care in the profile, in the « events » section. Here will be a detailed program of each city consisting of two parts – the walking and educational part of the mom’s hike. Kaunas moms are welcome on May 7th. At 1 p.m. Kaunas Santaka Park near John Paul’s sculpture. It will move from the participant’s pedestrian path along the Neris and the Nemunas rivers. At the end of the march, which plans to overcome 2 km, the activities organized by Kaunas City Municipality Public Health Bureau – forest and nature therapy, exercise for moms, attentive awareness session will be held. During the event, there will be a non -profit organizations fair, which will provide useful information to moms raising little ones and will focus on boosting mothers’ emotional health.