Happier without me – diepresse.com
There is this scene in the film « The Perfect Crime » from 2007. Ted (Anthony Hopkins) sees how his wife has fun in a swimming pool with another man. The two seem in love and familiar. It is obvious that a new life began for his wife and that she will soon tell him. A sight that TED does not endure.
A nice template for a mind game: your longstanding relationship is over and your partner wants the separation. She moves out – sobered, disillusioned and deadly sad. Your new apartment is small and expensive, it has to restrict itself and reorganize her life. Maybe she even has to take medication and take therapy to survive everyday life. She is a shadow of herself – a single person and on some days lonely person who regularly cries to sleep because her lifelong dream has burst. Nevertheless, she prefers this life with you.
What a terrible scenario. Who would wish for something like that? Who would it prefer to see his former friend so unhappily-instead of in a good mood and in a good mood because she is freshly in love or enjoys her single life? Would we have the opportunity to choose one of these variants – which would we choose? For the second, right? Because what did it say about us would we hope that a person with whom we have shared the bed and the most intimate thoughts would not be able to cope with the separation? Shouldn’t it be calming and somehow comforting to see that the restart succeeds reasonably well and quickly? Doesn’t that mean just that?
Questions that are easier to answer in theory than in practice. I know. But I also know: that someone is happier without me could at best be offended, but never strain as the bitter realization that someone is just less unhappy without me. The latter is much more painful. Have already experienced both.
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