Experts reveal: ‘Desperate’ message you should not send if you want to another date
This is especially frustrated when everything seemed to be good and that the second date was already « in your pocket ». Not knowing what went wrong, many began to reconsider their behavior, spin everything in their heads and try to understand what happened and why.
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According to an expert on sexuality and relationships, Anita Fletcher, many of their own sabotage the chances of another date, sending desperate a message that can reject a potential partner.
– We all went through it, but some messages simply shout « Despair! » louder than others – says Anita Fletcher.
1. « Hey, are you here? » (verification of despair)
A seemingly harmless message, but it’s actually a big alarm. If you send it multiple times a day, it acts as if you were constantly checking if you were available and no smarter job.
2. Triple message:
« Hey! What day is your day? », « Haloooo ??? », « I suppose you are busy/a … »
« This kind of behavior shows that you are hard to bear a short period without confirmation, » said Anita Fletcher.
3. « Why don’t you answer? »
This confrontation message is the poison to start the relationship. Seeking an explanation for delay with answers acts as a control, and that Before you got closer at all.
4. The emotional “overshare”
« I had a terrible day, the boss yelled, I got a parking sentence, my mom called me for a family drama and I’m so stressed that I barely function … »
Taking too much emotion before the relationship developed too much and too early.
5. “I miss you”
To declare that someone misses after only one encounter suggests unhealthy emotional attachment.
6. « Am I attractive to you? »
Imposing compliments or searching for the confirmation of one’s own value through messages acts insecure.
