Does the solitude make people happier – BBC News in Serbian

The solitude can fill people, from the time they spend alone to enjoying the benefits of Samakh life, is a philosophy that they advocate many new books.

Main character of Vim Venders from 2023. years, Perfect days (Perfect Days), is a public toilet cleaner in Tokyo, who spends most of the day.

He bay plants, thinks, listens to music, and reads.

Later in the film, other characters were introduced, but the initial moments of this realization are presented by many viewers as truly perfect.

They described the BBC film critic Nikolas Barber as « meditation on the serenity of existence in essence », which was precisely caused by a strong reaction of the behalf.

And there is no miracle.

Thoughtful and optimistic views on the solitude are increasingly present on our screens, bookshelves and smartphones – from Podcast to viral videos in tantok.

It seemed that there was never a better time to be alone.

In the last few years, several titles were published on this topic, and several more are in preparation.

Books Science and the power of solitude and How to build a great single life appeared on the 2024 market. year, while the book Nikole Slon Sama: How to live a fulfilled life by our own rules published in February.

At the end of May, the long-awaited Roman Eme Ganon was published Table for one man (Table for one).

Since she became known for the traditional plays of success and productivity, Ganon now reviews modern partnerships through a love story about a young woman who finds joy in solitude, not with a partner.

Later this year, two more self-help manuals are expected – Joy of solitude: how to re-connect with yourself in a world that is too connected and It’s nice to sleep alone.

Also, edition in English in the soft link of Danijela Schreast should be published Thinking about Sama’s lifewhich was originally published in Germany 2023. years.

The change of attitudes

Many new books, full of insightful observations and useful advice, are not only harder to kill pre-war about solitude, but also to highlight its advantages and beauty.

This large number of editions on this topic perhaps at first glance is a surprise for everyone who survived the pandemic of the corona virus and certainly heard, or felt bitter taste taked « Lonely epidemics »an expression that is 2023. Popularized Vivek Mertti the then general surgeon of the United States.

« After the pandemic, huge attention was paid to loneliness and with good reason, » he says Robert KoplanProfessor of Psychology at the University of Karlton in Ottawa, Canada, and the author of the book The joy of solitude: how to re-connect with yourself in a world that is too connected.

However, it says that for justified concerns about the consequences of loneliness, solitude, due to attempts to get rid of unwanted loneliness, unfairly due to a bad voice.

Now, however, the views of the solitude are repaired.

The countrysine emphasizes that it is important to distinguish between loneliness and solitude and that many writers stand out.

« Although loneliness is harmful and is a serious problem for some people, it is a subjective condition that matters significantly from a solitude that someone consciously chooses for positive reasons, » he explains a journalist Heather Hansenwhich is 2024. was co-authors mentioned by the book of science and the power of solitude.

Hansen watched the media constantly say we are very loneAnd, but it explains that « people are increasingly reviewing their own life and realize they choose a solitude for various reasons that bring them well-being. »

« I have a theory that we are after a pandemic corona virus capable of clearly understanding the difference between loneliness and the chosen solitude, » says Ema Ganonotherwise a large sofa concept « Slow life ».

Extreme conditions during a pandemic such as a indoor space with all loved ones, or contrary, performed without contact with people – prepared us « for conversations between the insulation and the joyful time spent in solitude, » says Ganon.

And members of the generation Z and Millennials are increasingly reviewing romantic connections, enthusiastically accepts Samački lives, and carefully consider interpersonal relationships.

The new Roman Ganon may be a fictitious representation of a young woman who renews the relationship with himself, but will look true to many readers who are fighting more and more to obsolete social expectations, and that is to « settle down ».

Survey conducted in America 2023. year, showed that two of the five members of the generation Z and Millennium considers marriage overcome tradition.

Toward Data The Institute for National Statistics of the United Kingdom (UK) is envisaged that only a little more than half of the generation z will be married.

In April he saw in tiktok, which has more than a million likes and almost 37,000 comments, displayed sight A man at a party with women who live alone and that perfectly suits.

Many women rated his analysis as completely accurate and enthusiastically recognized.

Such reactions is not surprised by Nikola Slown, the author books Sam: How to live a fulfilled life by our own rules.

« The number of people in England who live alone constantly grows for about ten years, » says the cultural shift and attention focuses on « freedom and independence, because women realize that they do not expect what was expected from them in previous generations. »

Despite this, it can be said that our cultural fascination is deeply rooted.

Beauty Lifelongs were the topic of many artists – from the German painter of David Friedrich, whose picture of the wanderer above the sea), all the way to the recent American painter 20th century Edward Hopper and his departures of lonely inhabitants in the cities.

In the text of the weekly New Yorker Dedicated to the Retrospective Hopper Exhibition in the Vitni’s Museum of American Art in New York, « Everything Hopper shows is insulated, without communion, and yet its images of apparent loneliness do not seem proud of independence. »

Danijel Srbiter says it is traditionally too considered to be people who live alone, without a partner, lonely.

« Today, society better understands that a romantic relationship is not the only possible way of life, nor does something need to be striving for, » he adds.

« There are different ways of living, and it is not so much so much necessary to be in a traditional romantic relationship ».

A similar attitude shares and Peter McGrou, author of the book How to build a great single life and self-proclaimed « tense bachelor », which teaches marketing and psychology at the University of Colorado.

« There are many myths around Samački Life, as well as misunderstanding why marriage was invented – mostly as a business arrangement, » McGrou says.

« Honestly, the message of romantic comedies, love songs and the novel Jane Ostin that we need a partner to be met not supported by data.

« If we look at the data of longitudinal research, it can be seen that although personal happiness can increase during marriage, that effect does not last long, » he adds.

Even in a partnership, traditional roles can be adjusted to create more space for solitude, which also advocates the book is nice to sleep alone.

The author of the books and instructors of yoga and meditation, Cynthia Zak, noted that many women prefer to sleep alone more than with a partner.

She decided to write a book, originally in Spanish, to support the idea of ​​expressing what we feel for and for what we need, more opportunities to get fears and limiting beliefs, and more freedom to choose « .

How to be alone and feel good

If there are more and more people living alone and are therefore not exposed to environmental prejudices, how can I get the best out of it?

Everyone agrees that it is crucial to find a healthy balance between the time that people alone and socializing with others, as well as that solitude should be their own choice, not imposed or necessary.

« The biggest indicator of a successful solitude is that the man I chose her, believing that she offers something important and meaningful, » says Hansen.

It adds that the solitude is like « clay we can shape how we want ».

In this regard, McGrow advises that this shaping should not be turned into « bedding in bed and ordering food via delivery applications ».

Instead suggests that solitude is used for Creative activities and hobbiessuch as walks, running, observing passers-by from cafes, visit museums, and enjoy the pace that you want « .

Or maybe, he says, « Lying in the bath with music Vivaldi », or attending an online course.

Slown advises with single ones to wait for solitude to pass, should be happily accepted.

« I have been putting something often until ‘I’m settled down, but I realized I had to live my life, instead of feeling as if I was in the waiting room, waiting for life to start, » she says.

And what should be done when the company’s pressure begins?

« Don’t undergo ingrained thoughts and expectations, » McGrou advises.

« The good news is that there is also an alternative scenario now. »

Loveness, in a broader sense, offers many opportunities.

« I believe that solitude encourages creativity, it drives us and helps us solve the problem, » says Ganon.

It proposes that we look at the loneliness as an adventure, or as an opportunity to reconnect with them, for example by writing the diary or enjoying the senses.

« Soft blanket, music sound, taste of your food.

« All you can see, hear, touch, and feel when you’re alone? »

Zak says deeper thinking about himself can deepen understanding of solitude.

It proposes to address attention to moments of solitude and to turn into small rituals that calm and encourage thinking.

« Ask yourself what you like most when you are alone?

« Make that moment to be precious and give yourself a task of consciously more and more appreciate that space, » she says.

And what perhaps the most important thing is to spice solitude and society.

« People need social contact, but I would say they need solitude, » says Koplan.

« The key to happiness and well-being is finding the right balance.

« And that balance is very individual ».

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