Do you have such a little Pikkie, or is that just a rotch remark?

Last week I wrote about sexism, and what you can do as a woman, and yes. After that, a nice distinction arose in my mailbox between the women and the men who responded.

Because the women came up with examples of sexism they had gotten around: « We prefer to give your job to a breadwinner, » « the women have to be good in gala, the men are good as they are, » « I am always intimidated by tall women, » « what work for a mother, » we are here very much of women, « because you can do some niger to be a dent. difficult ”, etc.

And the men argued. That they never understand what sexism is, that they wonder if sexism is a problem (haha), that they think that sexism only exists in my head. There was also a man who finds « as an older, white man, sexism a difficult story, » men who find « sexism a very annoying word » – « I prefer » discrimination « ; And there was even one that started to explain sexism to me: « It is now Japke, sexism, together with the hardware store. The last stronghold of the man that is left. » Expensive.

And that one man! Who after a discussion about what is sexism, one, hold on, try to meet me! OMG! I answered that I only date with men over 1.98 meters – otherwise I can keep going. But I also thought: how wonderful if you have so much confidence! That you dare! Many women could learn a lot from that.

Because women often don’t have that, that misplaced self -confidence. We don’t learn that, at school, at the sports club, and not at home. We should be nice there, and do fun. We hardly practice debating, negotiating, contradicting someone to give a bang for his head. And yes, then we are once again with our mouth full of teeth when a man makes a silly comment.

The older women in my mailbox (66 and older) have had enough of that. Get rid of that uncertainty and the beech in it! They think the time of being nice and friendly laughing is over. And that we women should learn to open our mouths to get sexism out of the world. Why? Because it marginalizes women, and limited.

They believe that women should be on debate training in role playing. « Then in the beginning it may sound shivering or insecure, but every time you do it, you get better at it! », One wrote. « If you don’t do it for yourself, do it at least for the new generation, » another. « And you get bullshit, » wrote a friendly columnist. Whatever you say, and even if you don’t say anything. Then you better say anything than nothing?

But what you say then, a number of women wanted to know. « Can’t come up with a few comments for us that we then have ready, » a few asked. Sure I can do that. I just listed for you. Just look at which you want to use. Maybe it helps! And otherwise, unfortunately, plenty of other opportunities to revanch you. Brave forward!

1 « It was just a joke! » Try some new material.

2 « Women cannot park. » What a sexist cunt comment, Paul. By the way, you stink enormously from your mouth.

3 « Hey female, do you want to get coffee? » No. You shouldn’t give a nikels coffee. Then they die.

4 « I would like to némen you seriously. » What do you mean? Do you want to go to bed with me? I don’t get the joke. Explain.

5 « Don’t bother our men with your stories about sexism and solve your own problems. » I find out who I want. And sexism is also your problem. Shaeses of societies in which women are treated more are happier, more stable, grow faster and more sustainable, and are more peaceful.

6 « The problem with sexism is that it is not always clear what it is. » No. The problem with sexism is that it puts women in the corner and keeps small.

7 « Women are also sexist against men! » Oh really? Tell! Does that ensure a pay gap with women? And fewer male CEOs?

8 « Women just can’t negotiate. » Aha. So you only have a higher salary because you have a big mouth.

9 « I don’t see sexism anywhere. » How nice for you. But unfortunately, research shows the opposite.

10 « Don’t worry about it, stand above it. » I would like to do that, but it influences my chances on the labor market, and on my salary.

11 « I never know what sexism is. » How annoying! While it is so simple: they are derogatory things that are only told to women, and not to men. But if you doubt whether something is sexism: ask us! Don’t worry about your uncertainty!

12 « Stop that bitch. » I think you look a bit hysterical, insecure too! Try to work on that. If you laugh, you are much nicer by the way.

13 « Can’t we just treat each other? » Cozy for whom?

14 « What do you react emotionally, dramatic, bossy and aggressive. » You mean passionate, persistent, confident and assertive?

15 « Are you your period? What do you look angry. » I always look like this when I see you.

16 « Can you laugh too? » Certainly, but not for you.

17 « Stop howling. » Do you have such a little Pikkie, or is this just a rotch remark?

18 « You make a problem of everything. » I don’t make it a problem that it is all.

19 « You can’t say anything anymore, as a man. » But. Why would you do it?

And oh yes, if a colleague or your boss is staring at your breasts during a consultation, roll your chair backwards, and you sit down at his crotch under the table. « So far there is little to see but I thought: I try it. » Then it will be over. And always keep laughing? Very important.

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