3 reasons why not abusing dating applications

Annexes have become an extremely common way of dating over the last decade

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With the development of social networks and technologies, people began to get acquainted online. There are now dozens of applications for this.

However, sometimes the use of such applications has a negative effect on mental health, It is said In The Washington Post.

Psychotherapists explained what dangers were about and gave some tips on how to use the applications without harming themselves.

Dependence on dopamine

Skrolling is able to « tighten » people in social networks because it stimulates dopamine release. In the case of dating applications, it works the same way. The only difference is that people are not looking at the posts, but by other profiles.

”People are constantly « looking » dopamine and serotonin that either do not appear or have a short -term effect« , – explains psychotherapist Paul Gochemier.

A similar effect is exchanged.

« Users can become dependent on dopamine excitation that appears when someone replies to the message », – The expert overcomes.

According to him, a long time in such applications can harm people with depression or anxiety disorders.

”The deeper a person has depression or anxiety, the stronger his dependence on these applications.

Based on experience with patients who enjoy dating applications, I see that it causes fatigue – people are just depleted« , – he adds.

Reduction of self -esteem

In one of the most popular dating applications – Tinder – people « evaluate » each other with the help of Swipe to show their interest.

Photo -based assessments can make people feel not attractive enough, says psychotherapist Racine Henry.

”Such applications can make a person feel ugly or unnecessary,  » – She explains.

According to her, this is especially harmful to young people who do not yet have emotional maturity to perceive the refusal to adequately.

”Therefore, I believe that self -esteem, self -confidence and self -perception should be at a healthy level before a person starts entering these applications. Should not rely on the person who sees only a few photos and sentences about you« , – the psychotherapist notes.

Food disorders

According to psychotherapist Nicole Karvashan, there is another risk – exacerbation of eating disorders. This is due to the fact that people want to look good in the photo and get approval.

”This has become a serious problem for some of my patients. In this case, I ask: what is the goal? Why do we give so much power to this application and strangers?« She notes.

It is worth noting that not only applications for dating, but other social networks have this effect.

At the same time, the psychotherapist adds that such applications clearly have some benefits, for example, for introverts, people with social phobias and those who have experienced traumatic experience in relationships.

”Sometimes it is a safe way to get acquainted and gradually open another person« , She summed up.

How to use the dating applications without harming the « mental »?

Psychotherapists gave five basic tips:

• Limit the time spent in applications – it is enough to check them once a day;

• Look for a person with similar goals (if you are looking for a long -term relationship and a partner – only sex, it will lead to disappointment);

• Identify what is important to you in your partner and talk openly;

• Do not look for confirmation of your own value in the application;

• If you are prone to depression or anxiety, keep a close eye on the application of the application on your emotional state.

We will remind, before we are in detail explainedHow to get acquainted on the Internet is safe.